I'm fortunate to come from a family whose leaders were born in the 19th century.
I know how to make biscuits and comfort food such as chicken and dumplings. I can darn socks and hem my own trousers too
But the most important thing is I was taught is: presence is one of the most valuable gifts. you can give someone is your presence.
We live in an age today where our presence is notably missing. When mom or Dad is in the hospital, we may stop by for 1q5 minutes and then call back at our convenience.
Over the last week, i’ve seen a good friend have a debilitated stroke, contract a blood disease, (MRSA) and watched her family struggle to come to terms with a difficult diagnosis.
My friend is a mother of three adult children
This family stood by me during very dark times, and constantly reinforced my belief that if I stayed on course, my life would come back. So tonight my friend is in an ICU in Sacramento, and i’m at my keyboard in Escondido.
But I have something I can share with my friend, My presence.
One of the things I learned from my mother, father and grandparents was how to “sit” with a sick person. And that’s zackly what i will do tomorrow.
It’s a nine to ten hour run to Sacramento from my house, but it’s a trip I have to make.
I just want to sit quietly and tell my friend,and say thanks for showing me how to believe in myself.
My friend, Carol Selby, isn’t conscious and isn’t responding to stimuli. I have no expectations that my good vibrations can cut through the fog of a stroke damaged brain, but I know that I have the capacity to pull a chair next to Carol’s bed and quietly hold her hand while i telling her thanks for the contributions to my life.
Cariol Selby, you showed determination, honesty and love and I hope that somewhere deep down you’ll sense the presence of someone who thinks you're a hero. jim Fores on29 January, 2018