For the first time since I started the current remodeling project here at Rancho Bizarro South I’m beginning to feel slightly more at ease with the process and its eventual outcome.
Last night—New Year’s Eve, I reviewed my task lists and went to bed satisfied that I’ve completed most of the critical jobs that go into the front end of a remodeling addition project. For me the most troublesome things have all centered around getting the necessary permits. At times I wanted to just run away from my local city hall screaming. After other meetings I left celebrating winning “neener points” – those little battles you fight knowing you’re in the right andd believing the city will come around to your view. Eventually.
What I thought would be the hardest battle, getting my aged mother to agree to move out of the small town she grew up in and move to my place here in rural Northern San Diego County turned out to be a cake walk.
After 89 years in Azusa. Ma is ready and anxious to move.
I’ve tried to make the process of bringing MaForbes into my house easy and fun. Along the way, I’ve accumulated about 45 pages of One Note files on real and imagined living space requirements for an aging parent. High on my list has been providing housing that encourages her to feel she’s still independent while at the same time helping to realize that she’s an integral part of a family.
Although MaForbes is still able to walk around her house and has a very good memory, I don’t assume she’ll always be mobile. That explains the big doors, wide hallways and some of the features of her new en suite bathroom.
Coming up on her 90th year, Ma is still going strong and still very much an inquisitive naturalist who laughs at special needs sparrows, mocking birds that establish territories near her doors, and the dumbest cat I’ve ever been around.
In planning Ma’s new living spaces I’ve made sure she has a balcony with a view of my peach, apricot and citrus trees and that fresh fruit is seldom more than a couple of feet away from the edge of her balcony. Ma’s new digs has several large windows with views to the Pacific on the west, and of the sandstone hills that mark the edge of the Cleveland National Forest to the east of my hill.
The bonus feature for Mom will be the morning breeze, carrying the delicate Spring scent of orange, lemon and tangerine blossoms, one of her favorite memories of growing up in sleepy little Azusa.
The next most important category in the MaForbes One Note files is hooking her up with a new primary care physician at Kaiser. That happens on Ma’s next visit.
In planning her new living space I’ve made sure that everything is handicapped accessible, especially the bathroom. Overall, this stage of the proposed remodel was greatly simplified by a designer that works for my contractor. Also, a series of conversations with another designer who is the partner of Jonathan Blackwood, a colleague from Windows magazine specializes in living space for the elderly, helped me focus in on some of the needs my mother may have in her new living quarters.
I began this project thinking I could build a place for MaForbes for under $150,000. I assumed that because I have the acreage, construction and the permit process would be straightforward. Boy was I ever wrong.
The price for this remodel will top out well in excess of $200,000. Gulp!
MaForbes is taking an active role in her move, which makes me very thankful. And, in talking about this project with high school friends, I’ve discovered I’m just one of many baby boomers now grappling with the issue of providing living space and care for octogenarian parents.
An extensive remodel that involves cracking concrete flooring to add new plumbing and using multiple layers of plastic sheeting to keep out the weather and the infrequent (I kid you not!) curious coyote is incredibly disruptive and it’s not a process I hope I will ever go through again. Tonight three large storage pods take up all the space in front of my boat port and garage driveway apron and all the clothing I absolutely need is hung neatly on portable clothes hanging racks from Ikea.
The storage pods go away tomorrow morning and won’t return until the addition is done. And, after looking at over one Gigabyte’s worth of data, more than half of my task lists are now completed. When I started this project I chose to use a convertible computer and Microsoft One Note to manage all my tasks. I recommend convertibles such as the Think Pad X60 line because they are rugged enough to use around construction sights and because its swiveling screen let’s me show .PDF files related to this project to city officials and my contractors. Since contractors get a bit miffed when I unplug their corded equipment, my X60 tablet’s battery life is a big bonus. In conjunction with the swiveling screen my convertible helps me score the neener points I need to remain sane during the remodel.
And so, on January 1, 2008, about six hours after a stroke kicked my ass and forced me into early retirement I find myself thankful that I can provide a nice living space for my soon to be 90 year old mother, and having gained the confidence I need to manage a complex series of interrelated tasks. In the last two weeks I’ve gone from living in a space with seven rooms to sleeping in what is supposed to be my den. It’s two adults and three domestic pets. My dog doesn’t mind, my youngest cat is mostly stoned on antidepressants and I’ve learned an important lesson: People on three to four milligrams of blood thinners should not tease a dominant kitty. My bleeding left hand proves this point.—Jim Forbes 01/01/2008