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Another tool has emerged for Baby Boomers and Gen Xers faced with caring for an aging parent or grandparent.
Caring.com, which debuted Monday, offers how-to information on caring for elderly family members, whether they live in their own home, with a family member, or in a facility. The topics include providing in-person and long-distance support, financial and legal advice, and end-of-life issues.
Caring.com features a community area for people to share care-giving tips, as well as a section where questions can be posed to various experts, such as a communication supervisor with the American Medical Response ambulance company.
Tools on the site include a risk calculator to determine the chances an elderly family member will fall and tips on how to prevent falls, said Andy Cohen, co-founder and chief executive, who started the company in January.
"There are a lot of sites that address specific diseases, but no other site is as comprehensive," said Cohen.
Over the years I’ve seen plans for several thousand web-based businesses run by entrepreneurs searching for just the right “niche.” Until I came across a news piece on www.Caring.com, I’d never seen any site that chimed my bells as loudly.
While it’s easy to write off baby boomers as “the spoiled generation” we’re also among the first generations to assume we’ll get to retire while our parents are still alive. And for many of us, this means we’re facing the prospect of caring for aging parents in their Eighties and Nineties.
I’m in this situation and in the process of the significant lifestyle changes needed to take care of MaForbes, a fiercely independent 89-year old who has lived in same town for all but six months of her life.
About six months ago, I realized that my mom really couldn’t live safely by herself anymore and that I would need to do something proactively to provide care for her. Like a lot of baby boomers I’ve watched my mother’s world shrink appreciably every year. She’s no longer spry and the number of friends who would gather several times a month at her house for card games and lunch has grown steadily smaller.
I initially approached the problem of providing for my aging mother as if I were the only person in this world who had faced this problem. Over time, I have found some materials that helped guide my thinking, but until Caring.com appeared there was no single Internet site that offered the variety and depth of information and resources I felt I needed to work through a solution to providing shelter and care for my mother while maintaining her sense of independence.
About five months ago, I realized the solution to caring for MaForbes was right “at hand.” My house sits on a large lot on top of a small mountaintop, so I started exploring the idea of building housing that’s classified by cities as either an “inlaw” or a “ granny flat.” After finding out how difficult it would be to build a detached small dwelling for my mother on my lot, I talked to a couple of contractors and discovered it would be almost as easy (but more expensive) to add a large bedroom suite to my house with its own bath and porch.
Healthcare is another big issue children who need to help their parents face. Fortunately for me, since MaForbes and I are both Kaiser patients and there’s a clinic nearby, this was easily resolved.
The recent conflagration in San Diego County rolled back my construction dates slightly but I’m getting my place ready for Ma’s big move in about 90 days.
Everything is well underway and I’m already searching for the move-in gift she’s requested—an unweaned kid goat. Hey, Ma and I share a lot of the same interests and if she wants a pet goat to nurture, that’s OK with me. Besides, I have this nephew in Prineville, Oregon who has a couple of expectant does that will deliver around Christmas. Just in time for a move-in gift.
Caring.com doesn’t get this deep into the myriad issues of providing care for aging parents, but it does offer the tools you need to make a decision that’s as right for you as it is your parents.
I just wish that at least one dozen of the several thousand s web-based efforts I evaluated while I was producing Demo events and writing for DemoLetter, were as relevant as Caring.com.
This site won’t give you a one-click solution to caring for an aging parent, but it’s the one Internet location I believe you should turn to as you work through the complex decisions you need to make about caring for an elder parent or grandparent.
This start-up, funded with about $7 million in first round money, is reserving about half of its initial budget to acquire unique content; a strategy I think could help to insure its success.
If you have an elderly parent, Caring.com should have a permanent place in the bookmarks you keep close at hand. My initial experience with it helped to make me feel much more confident about my decisions on how to care and provide for my elderly mother.
I may be selfish, but by bringing MaForbes into my home, I’m guaranteed of at least two more lip-smacking perfect turkey dinners. And in this decision MaForbes literally “gets the goat.”—Jim Forbes, 11/19/1007.
Ma Forbes at 88 on my ATV